Learn, Discover, Evolve

A collection of sharing of thoughts, research and intuition here as our connection with you to help you grow. Insights of healing, clearing, meditation, and transformation underpin the sharing here. Please feel free to comment with your ideas also.

By Siobhan Coulter


Everyone wants their love relationship to be successful. Understanding the seven signs of relationship success are essential to creating a great relationship that continues to strengthen over time.



1. Commit to Love

Today, relationships are ever-changing yet the basis of all love relationships stays the same: Love. Love, however, is more than just an emotion. It’s an attitude that you take towards your partner and is founded in trust and commitment. Love is trusting that your partner loves you back. Love is trusting your relationship is rock-solid and you are both committed 100%.



2. Be Open Hearted

Healthy couples require a high emotional connection and the best way to achieve this is to share yourself fully with your partner. By sharing the day’s highlights and discovery moments keeps couples connected and growing together.



3. Trust Your Love Relationship

Disagreements are healthy components of all relationships. It’s how we handle them that matters. Trusting your relationship’s foundation of love is essential to overcoming misunderstandings. Asking yourself “What would love do in this situation?” is a great way to stay in your heart and be open to compromises and solutions.



4. Make More Love

Sexual and non-sexual touch is a beautiful aspect of human relationships. Physical touch brings couples together and intimacy creates deep bonds that are founded in mutual vulnerability, respect and trust. Vulnerability creates deep connections that profoundly bond both partners.



5. Own Your Emotions

Emotional awareness and sensitivity are key to keeping relationships on track. By owning your emotional reactions and digging deep to heal your issues helps to avoid blaming your partner. Yes, they might have been the trigger…but you own the emotional reaction. Processing your emotions and sharing your growth with your partner strengthens love and commitment.



6. Regularly Address All Elephants in the Room

Elephants in the room are more common than most will admit. Otherwise, they won’t be elephants! Issues that everyone knows are present, but no one dares to talk about. Addressing elephants as soon as they arise and making it a common and safe activity, builds trust and a deeper understanding of each other’s thinking.



7. Share to Your Partner First

If you want your partner to be your one and only, then they need to also be your closest friend. Of course, share your highs and lows with your close friends, but your desire to share with your partner first is a great indicator of your relationship focus and connection.



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The daily practice of effective meditation, and the integration of being present in daily life, is the basis for a healthy life. If you find that during the day you are triggered and need to refocus, here is something you can do, when strong emotions manifest in you.

It is to:

  1. First, stop what you are doing and have five deep conscious breaths. Breathing, deep, expanding and slow. Exhale in long slow conscious relaxing presence. Focus on the breath.

  2. Next, feel and identify the emotion, the trigger and place a label on it. You can say something to yourself like, “Anger is here” (which is better than “I am angry”).

  3. See where the emotion is present and manifesting within your physical body. Consciously relax and breathe out the tension in from your body, releasing the emotion and dis-ease in every exhalation, visualising the harmony returning to your body.


This short interlude during emotional responses can help to manage and identify that you are not your emotions, but you are temporarily experiencing them within your body as a chemical response to your thinking, perceptions and conditioning. A great follow up practice is in a later part of the day when you meditate you can delve deeper to release the trigger with some inner work instead of continuing to hold the dis-ease within you. The faster you clear it the better for your release and health.


On the flip-side of all of this, if we just feel by meditating we will be better off in our health. We are tapping into the well known Placebo Effect. There are many documented cases of the placebo effect working as well as “real treatments” for depression, chronic pain, Parkinson’s disease, anxiety, asthma, epilepsy, hypertension, insomnia, and autoimmune deficiencies, among others.

“People who believe they have the power to exercise some measure of control over their lives are healthier, more effective and more successful than those who lack faith in their ability to affect change in their lives.”
A Bandura.

Keep an eye out for our events which can help you manage and support your meditation development. Our classes and private consultations are online during COVID 19, and are discounted, so take this advantageous situation to your benefit. Email info@thegoldenspace.com.au


Love and Light to you all.



It is now well understood that meditation creates higher levels of compassion and empathy. In these times, this is vitally important to maintain understanding and acceptance of the situation and others perspectives. We are all in this together whether we like it or not. It is how we pass our current time and use the gifts that we have been given which will create the biggest shift in health.


Thinking positively, and holding gratitude for the health you have, the blessings of the circumstances you have is the best way to cope with our present situation. Positive mindset and emotions are key. Panicking and worrying about catching ill health is the first place to set the environment within your body to make it easier for you to be susceptible to illness. The water experiments by Masaru Emoto demonstrated the power of emotional intent on physical matter which has been reproduced many times in differing contexts. As our body is approximately 60% water, looking after your emotional and mental health directly translates to its physical form. It is very important.



It is without a doubt that those who meditate are in a better place physically, mentally and emotionally than those who believe that meditation is something they “just don’t have time for”. There is the ever increasing wave of research which now looks to confirm the basis of what many regular meditators and spiritualist practices have felt for many centuries; that meditation places you in a much better position with physical, mental and emotional health. Studies show that meditating even for periods as short as 10 minutes increases the brain's alpha waves (associated with relaxation) and decreases anxiety and depression.


Numerous scientific studies now agree that medication is about treating symptoms and meditation is a preventative practice. These preventative meditation measures are to maintain a healthy and vital ecosystem within the body which reduces the needs for alteration via medication. Continuous exposure to stress and anxiety is known to weaken your immune system due to elevated cortisol levels. (Studies to check out 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6). Normally, mental and physical stress cause increased levels of the stress hormone cortisol. This produces many of the harmful effects of stress, such as the release of inflammation-promoting chemicals called cytokines. What are biologically helpful short term benefits and survival hormones, today have now become chronic exposure and detrimental to our health due to our inability to manage them in our busy routines. Our daily lives and workplace stresses have created environments where stress is the norm, where relaxation and effective distressing practices are sacrificed to completing the demands of work and family life. Because stress hormones suppress non-emergency functions, such as maintaining the immune system, chronic stress can leave many bodily systems at risk. Constant suppression of the immune system, for example, leaves us vulnerable to infections.


We have forgotten the ability to detach from stress and have lowered the importance of releasing and dispersing these sustained cortisol levels which have serious negative effects on the body. Continued exposure to these naturally occurring chemicals and hormones can disrupt sleep, promote depression and anxiety, increase blood pressure and contribute to fatigue and cloudy thinking. It is a well accepted fact that effective meditation practice allows for the parasympathetic nervous system to reduce the levels of cortisol in the body so as to lower the stresses and inflammation within the body. This creates a much healthier mental and emotional capacity to cope with stress when we do experience it. Meditation creates higher problem solving skills and allows for easier social collaboration. Much of these stresses we face today could be addressed with these two areas covered.


Another 2014 study demonstrated in nearly 1,300 adults that meditation may decrease stress. Notably, this effect was strongest in individuals with the highest levels of stress. So the saying that "those who need it the most, benefit the most" is true.


Studies (source needed here sorry) have found that effective meditation is about regularity, not necessarily length. A person who doesn’t meditate is clearly worse off, but any meditation is better than none. Meditation is 99% practice and 1% theory, just do it.. It’s an action which must be maintained and regular to find the greatest benefits. To gain the biggest benefit, a short meditation in the morning and evening compared to a long morning meditation revealed a more effective impact of wellbeing in recent studies (can’t find the recent study, but it’s out there).


So, take positive action today and maintain this healthy habit whilst we have so much time at home. A casual start to the day where you have saved all that travel time, spend 15-20 minutes meditating, and join an online class.


Please feel free to add your comments and extra links to articles which would bw supportive or even contradictory to these ideas. Healthy conversation is always encouraged.


Love and Light,

Nick



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